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Are You Trying Too Much in Your Relationship?

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Ever glanced at your partner during a tough chat (or while chilling on the sofa) and wondered, “How’d things get this tricky?”

Love’s early days are such a breeze. But then, suddenly, you see them turn into a monster when they’re starving, or realize their job rants aren’t just monthly gripes but daily tirades.  

Or maybe, when they’re down or ticked off, they shut you out completely. Over time, our imperfections shine through, and coexisting becomes a task.

Most of us get that “relationships require effort.” But here’s the catch: we’re kinda vague about what “effort” truly means.

We’re not too clear about which efforts are fruitful and which ones hint at issues or mismatch. Not every relationship effort is golden. In fact, of the three I’ve touched on, only one’s really worth our energy.

Treading Lightly

We all try to be careful around people we care about, right? We don’t want to hurt their feelings. So, we dodge topics and situations that might upset them. It’s just about being kind and understanding what ticks them off or makes them sad.

But there’s a difference when you feel like you’re always treading on thin ice. It’s like every little thing seems to bug them, and you’re always tiptoeing around, hoping not to set them off.  

Some people, who’ve been in bad relationships, say it feels like trying to avoid sudden bursts of anger or worse. And honestly? That tactic rarely helps.

It’s super draining to always be on guard, fearing you’ll say or do something wrong. It stops you from being you and sucks the joy out of life. If you’re dating and always feeling like this, it’s not healthy.

Holding On Tight

Then there’s those couples always questioning, “Are we good? Should we split? Can we fix things? Is it even worth it?” That’s a tough spot to be in.

Research says, for dating couples, if you’re always splitting up and making up, maybe you’re just not right for each other. You can totally love someone but still struggle to have a smooth relationship.  

Clinging to something that’s not clicking might stop you from finding someone better suited for you or chasing your own dreams. Breaking up is hard but sometimes, it’s for the best.

Now, if you’re in a solid relationship, raising kids, then fighting for it makes sense. Maybe try counseling to sort out the issues. But both need to be on board, and you should see some positive changes, even if they’re small.

Remember, kids are smart. They do worse with parents always at odds, even if they don’t see it. If things aren’t improving, think about calling it quits romantically and just focus on being co-parents.

Being Your Best Self

So what’s the real deal in relationships? Every day, we’ve got tons of chances to show our partners some love—whether it’s a smile, a joke, or just being there. Can we nail it every time? Not really. We all have those days, right? But giving your all to your partner is a big deal.

Like, when you’ve had a rotten day, it’s easy to snap at your partner. But why? They’re not the boss who nagged you or the friend who canceled plans. Chat about your tough day, but don’t take it out on them. Trust me, it’s a balancing act.

Remember the simple stuff, like saying “please” or “thanks”? It might sound silly, especially if you’ve been together forever. But, it makes a difference. And manners aren’t just about being all formal. Growing up in my house, you never took the last soda—that was our golden rule.

Dealing with problems? That’s another ball game. All couples argue, but the real winners are those who figure out the real issue and tackle it together. Yeah, it’s easier said than done. But working as a team? That’s the gold stuff.

Wrapping it Up

Where do you draw the line in relationships? How do you know if you’re just being considerate or if you’re tiptoeing too much? And when is it time to just… let go? 

I reckon it’s about the big picture. Does being in the relationship wear you out? Make you feel down? If yes, maybe it’s time to rethink things. 

In a deep relationship or marriage, maybe chat with an expert. If things still aren’t great, it’s okay to walk away.

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